Follow Your Heart (first). Then Your Head (second). Do something (third)

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You probably got here because you are at that point in your life where you are starting to question your professional life and if it is in balance with your weight/lifestyle/everyone else’s schedule. I’m guessing by now your life is no longer in sync and you are thinking if a career/job change will help. I don’t have a magic potion to solve your problem but I do have a few pieces of advice for you.

          1. Follow your heart or gut (whichever is bigger)

Your guiding light in this dilemma that you are facing would be come from inside you. The only rational thing for you to do now, ironically, is to follow your gut feel and to see where your emotions guide you.

Think about it. You are in this position, thinking if you should pursue a new job because you are feeling unhappy/unwelcomed/pressure/stagnant/underworked/overworked. Everything thing you choose to do herein forth should be guided by how you feel.

It boils down to your feeling. 

         2. Have a plan (by using your brain)

By now, you have should have reached a level of certainty of how you are feeling, and you would know by now if you would like to move on or if you are going to stick with what you have. Don’t kid yourself, you know the answer. You just need to get there. This is where the “using your brain” part comes in and you would find yourself falling into any of the 3 categories below.

For those of you that want to move on

Don’t start by looking up job portals and asking friends for introductions. Just STOP. Take stock of everything that made you unhappy, consolidate those reasons and make sure that these are all your deal breakers when looking for the next opportunity. Don’t give yourself any excuses -“my previous job was too stressful, but isn’t it the same for any?” – I will smack you if you gave me this reason.

If your previous boss is a twat, then finding out all about the next boss is your number 1 priority. If you had to work long hours and you hated it, don’t go into the next thinking the higher pay will make you happier. It won’t.

For those of you that have no idea what to do

The bulk of you that will fall under this category. You might have 3 reasons to leave but 5 that would compel you to stay. In your head, the situation that you are in is temporary and you are hoping that things will work out. If you got this far, my gut tells me it probably won’t.

That is not to say that you should throw your letter now. Go and see if those 3 reasons that are making you feel this way can be resolved. Talk to your supervisor. Email your boss. Call your wife/husband and see if it’s a phase in life. Ask your mum. Don’t speak to a recruiter.

Basically once you have lined up all your chicks and exhausted all your options to resolve the issue, then you would know what to do next. If you don’t, then the problem is you and wait for my next blog post that addresses this.

For those of you that are planning to stay

You make your own bed so sleep in it.I’m not saying that choosing to stay at your job is a bad thing. In fact, after some soul searching and facing your problems head on, you might just end up being happier with your current state (at least for the next 6 months).

If things really don’t change, come back to this blog and go thru your thought process when you first read this. See if that has changed. If not, go back to work.

         3. Stop moaning and get off your ass

As Yoda said, “Do or do not, there is no try”.

Regardless if you have decided to move on or not, the thing that irritates me the most about people that have approached me when they are in a period of uncertainty, is to rant about it. Sure, I’ll hear you out and try to solve your problem. But if in 2 months you don’t have an interview because you only sent out your resume to 2 people, then the problem is you.

Stop moaning about how you are stuck in the shitstorm at work, the bad economy or Trump. You are the master of your own destiny and you decide how you shape it. You might not get the hand that you want to be dealt but trust me on this. The harder you work for it, the closer you will get to where you want to be.

Most importantly, Stop Moaning and Do Something.

I will eventually address this and how you can better increase your chances at fixing your job or looking for the next one. Make that commitment. Do something.

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